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Windows of Opportunity Checklist

Prepare for the moments when your loved one is most open to change.

Week 8

Appendix H

Treatment Options (Research in Advance)

Treatment Option 1 (Name, phone, type of program)

Treatment Option 2

Treatment Option 3 (backup)

My Prepared Script

What I'll say (using PIUS)

Logistics I'll handle (ride, appointment, childcare)

What I'll say if they say no

Behind the Behavior

What did they actually do? (Just the observable behavior — no interpretation)

What was your nervous system's first interpretation? (The story it wrote)

What was happening neurologically? (Craving, withdrawal, shame spiral, emotional age)

Alternative explanation 1: Maybe they were feeling...

Alternative explanation 2: Maybe they needed...

Alternative explanation 3: Maybe the addiction was telling them...

What is it like to hold multiple explanations without picking one? What do you notice?

Compassionate Inquiry: Tracing the Shame

A recent moment when I felt shame in this relationship:

The story I told myself about what it meant:

When I first learned this story / whose voice it is:

Where I feel shame in my body:

If that shame belongs to the past, what is actually true right now?