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The Repair Log

Track your repair attempts this week — what happened, what you said, what you noticed.

Week 7

Appendix G

Repair Attempts

Rupture 1: What happened?

When did you attempt repair? How long after the rupture?

What did you say? (Try to remember your actual words)

How did they respond?

What worked? What would you do differently?

Reflection

What is the hardest part of repair for you?

What pattern do you notice in your ruptures? Is there a recurring trigger or dynamic?

The Double Vision

Lens 1 — My Experience: What was I thinking and feeling? What did I need?

What did I do? (Just the behavior)

Lens 2 — Their Experience: What might they have been thinking and feeling? What might they have needed?

What did they do? (Just the behavior)

Lens 3 — The Space Between: What was happening between you that neither of you could see in the moment?

What does repair look like from here?