Describe the situation. What ritual or OCD behavior did your loved one engage in?
What did you notice in your body? (Chest tight, jaw clenched, stomach dropping, etc.)
What was the story your nervous system wrote? (The first-draft interpretation)
What was the feeling underneath the story? (Exhausted, trapped, scared, ashamed, etc.)
What need of yours got activated? (For a normal household, for progress, etc.)
With the story paused — what might they have been feeling? Was the OCD spiking?