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Worksheet H: Setback Plan

Prepare for and manage potential setbacks.

Week 8

Appendix H

Setback Analysis

Trigger for the Setback

Old Behaviors that Returned (Compulsions/Accommodation)

What could be done differently next time?

Resilience Plan

First step to get back on track:

Supportive statement I will make:

My confidence in our ability to manage setbacks:

Behind the Behavior

What did they actually do? (Just the observable behavior — no interpretation)

What was your nervous system's first interpretation? (The story it wrote)

What was their brain doing? (Intrusive thought spiking, stress trigger, momentary slip)

Alternative explanation 1: Maybe they were feeling...

Alternative explanation 2: Maybe they needed...

Alternative explanation 3: Maybe the OCD was telling them...

What is it like to hold multiple explanations without picking one? What do you notice?

Compassionate Inquiry: Tracing the Shame

A recent moment when I felt shame in this relationship:

The story I told myself about what it meant:

When I first learned this story / whose voice it is:

Where I feel shame in my body:

If that shame belongs to the past, what is actually true right now?