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Intimacy Mapping

A private worksheet for mapping what feels safe, what doesn't, and what you both need — to be completed individually first, then shared if both feel ready.

Week 10
Appendix J

Current Intimacy Landscape

Physical connection that currently feels safe for both of us:
What tends to trigger a freeze or shutdown:
What I need (honestly):
What I think they need (check with them):

Traffic Light Agreement

How we'll communicate GREEN (all good):
How we'll communicate YELLOW (slow down):
How we'll communicate RED (stop):
What happens after RED (our protocol):

Example: Example Entry

A sample traffic light agreement.

Physical connection that currently feels safe for both of us:
What tends to trigger a freeze or shutdown:
What I need (honestly):
What I think they need (check with them):
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