The Coach's Toolkit
Essential cheat sheets, scripts, and guides for navigating challenges.
Communication Tips for Autism Spectrum Support
Clear, concrete, and predictable communication strategies.
The Golden Rule
Be Literal, Be Concrete, Be Predictable.
Many autistic individuals process language literally. Sarcasm, idioms, and vague instructions create confusion and anxiety.
Don't Say
- "You know what I mean."
- "Just use common sense."
- "Why can't you just be normal?"
- "Stop being so rigid."
- "It's not a big deal." (about sensory issues)
Do Say
- "Here's exactly what I need: [specific request]."
- "We're going to [place] at [time]. We'll be there for [duration]."
- "I can see that sound/light/texture is bothering you. Let's find a solution."
- "Your brain works differently, and that's okay."
- "What would make this easier for you?"
The "Prepare, Present, Process" Framework
PREPARE
Give advance notice of changes or expectations.
"Tomorrow we're going to the dentist at 2 PM. It will take about 30 minutes."
PRESENT
Use clear, literal language with visual supports if helpful.
"First we do X, then Y, then we're done."
PROCESS
Allow extra time for processing and transitions.
"Take your time. I'll wait."