FAQ & Troubleshooting

Supporting an adult with ADHD means learning that the things that drive you crazy — the forgotten appointments, the half-finished projects, the lost keys — are not character flaws. They're neurological. These questions address the real friction points.

These answers are educational guidance for supporters, not clinical advice. When in doubt, consult the treatment team. In a crisis, call 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or go to your nearest emergency room.

FAQ & Troubleshooting

What if they won't use the timer/planner/system we set up?

They forgot something important again. How do I not explode?

They start a million projects and finish none. How do I deal with the chaos?

I feel like their parent, not their partner. How do I fix this?

They get defensive when I bring up ADHD-related problems. How do I approach it?

Is medication enough, or do they need more?

They're just lazy. They do things they want to do just fine.

They'll never hold it together. Every system we try falls apart.

If I keep helping, I'm just enabling them.