The Coach's Toolkit
Essential cheat sheets, scripts, and guides for navigating challenges.
Communication Tips for ADHD Support
How to communicate effectively when attention and executive function are the challenge.
The Golden Rule
Short, Clear, and One Thing at a Time.
ADHD brains process information differently. Long instructions, multi-step requests, and vague expectations set everyone up for frustration.
Don't Say
- "You never listen to me."
- "If you really cared, you'd remember."
- "Why can't you just focus?"
- "You're so lazy."
- "I already told you three times."
Do Say
- "Can I have your attention for one thing? The trash needs to go out before 7."
- "I know your brain works differently. Let's find a system that works for both of us."
- "I'm not mad. I'm frustrated. Let's problem-solve together."
- "Would it help if I texted you a reminder?"
- "I appreciate that you're trying. I see the effort."
The "Cue, Chunk, Check" Framework
CUE
Get their attention before giving information.
"Hey, I need to tell you something important. Can you pause for a sec?"
CHUNK
Break requests into single, concrete steps.
"Step one: put your shoes on. That's it for now."
CHECK
Confirm understanding without condescension.
"What's the plan? Just so we're on the same page."